Shirley Eskind Fingerman

Shirley Eskind Fingerman

Shirley Eskind Fingerman (a”h), passed away peacefully on the cusp of Shabbat, Friday, October 29th, two weeks following her 100th birthday. Beloved wife of 61 years of the late Mr. Albert Ross Fingerman z"l, beloved mother of Naomi (Keith Osher) of Newton, MA, David (Debra) and Joel (Amy) both of Cincinnati, and Jeremy (Gail) of Fort Lee, NJ. Devoted grandmother to Jeffrey (Katie) of New Orleans, LA, Andrew (Rachel) of Lebanon, NJ, Evan (Amber) of Denver, CO, Mollie (Stuart) and Hilary of Cincinnati, and Zalman and Esther of Fort Lee, NJ. Cherished great-grandmother of Abby Jean, Lev Abram, Asher Liam, and Simone Frances; devoted daughter, dear sister, beloved aunt, and treasured friend.

The youngest of three children, Shirley was born and raised in Nashville, TN. She graduated from Vanderbilt University’s Peabody College of Education. While in school, she had a blind date with an Army Air Corps Captain stationed near Nashville. Following his overseas service during World War II, now a Major, Albert, returned to woo her and they became engaged in December 1945, and wed on June 2, 1946. 

Shirley and Albert lived and raised their family in Avondale, Bond Hill, and Wyoming. During her 75 years in Cincinnati, Shirley participated actively in Hadassah, Sisterhood, Cincinnati Bar Auxiliary, and many other communal pursuits. Following in her parent’s ardent Zionism, she traveled to Israel eight times, and made sure her children and grandchildren experienced and loved Israel as well. 

She embodied genuine interest in and deep care for everyone she met, always inquiring and never forgetting a connection, date or detail. She forged separate relationships with the friends of her own children, often spanning multiple generations and geographies, and until only very recently, she used her iPad to stay engaged and up-to-date. 

Her patience, determination, and strength were most exemplified by her care for Albert during his years of decline with dementia. Everyone marveled at her ability to extend the quality of his — and their — life. In the years following his demise in 2008, she lived independently in Indian Creek, where she remained until her death. 

Never wanting to focus attention on herself, she had requested a family-only graveside burial with no eulogies. However, her family did offer one-word descriptors capturing her essence: generous, grateful, patient, curious, lively, enthusiastic, Mishpacha, knowledgeable, positive, joyous, doer-of-good-deeds, vivacious, warm, optimistic, and humble.